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Early this morning I had a dream.  I will share it with you, but be warned that this was a graphic dream.  This morning I dreamed I was in the bathroom preparing to take a shower.  However, the shower curtain was filthy with feces on it.  The feces was being washed away by the water; however, the feces was speaking. The words that each piece of feces said were negative words.  That was the dream, and later as I was praying God said for me to write a message on how our words matter! 

Words Matter

Words Matter

Early this morning I had a dream.  I will share it with you, but be warned that this was a graphic dream.  This morning I dreamed I was in the bathroom preparing to take a shower.  However, the shower curtain was filthy with feces on it.  The feces was being washed away by the water; however, the feces was speaking. The words that each piece of feces said were negative words.  That was the dream, and later as I was praying God said for me to write a message on how our words matter! 

Proverbs 18:21 says that we have life and death in our tongues.  Our words matter.  Our words matter by what we say to others, and our words matter to what we say to ourselves.  As a child we may have heard the phrase “sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt me.”  This is such a lie from the enemy. We need to erase that line from our brain. 

I recently heard of an experiment done by Ikea.  IKEA had 2 plants.  One plant they spoke only positive words to, and the other plant only received negative words.  Guess which plant lived?  That’s right the plant with the positive words spoken to it.  You can check out their experiment by going to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yx6UgfQreYY.  

Imagine if we spoke only life to ourselves and to others!  I have been really good at saying positive things to others.  I am quick to give a compliment even to a stranger.  However, I have struggled with the internal battle of speaking positive to myself. I used to think of either the negative things that could happen or the ways in which I did things the wrong way.  God started to show me a better way through three books.  The three books are called The Tongue: A Creative Force by Charles Capps; What to Say When You Talk to Yourself by Shad Helmstetter; and Hung by the Tongue by Francis P. Martin. 

What to Say When You Talk to Yourself describes self talk in four different levels. 
The first two levels are levels where a person says to themselves “I can’t’ or “I need to but”.  These two levels are negative self talk.  The third level is where you say “I can” and “I will”.   The fourth level is more of a spiritual level where you say “I know I can do all things through Christ”.  You can get specific “I can lose weight through Jesus Christ who gives me strength”.    The book also gives some specific examples of how to write and speak positive phrases about certain topics.  Read them, Record them with your voices, and listen to them everyday! 

I challenge you to listen to your words.  Write down what you say. Change the negative phrases into positive phrases. Read them silently and out loud everyday.  I did this very thing in 2009, and I drove around with the positive phrases posted in the upper corner of my wind shield.  I used to believe that no one like me, but now I believe everyone likes me.  I faced self-rejection badly, and this is one way I dealt with it. 

Just think.  If you had everything you said in a 24 hour period what would your life be like?  


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