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What Is Love?

​It was about ten years ago now! It seems such a short time ago! I was jumping on a trampoline with my kids, and then I couldn’t figure a way to get off the trampoline when I was finished. My mind was thinking of ways to not hurt myself. Then our oldest son, Joshua, says “come on, Moma. You’re big!”  I remember his statement made me so mad I got right off that trampoline, stormed into the house, slammed my bedroom door, sat on the bed and cried! Then I heard God whisper to me, “should you be acting that way? Any woman dressed like this?” Then he showed me this image of my standing in a beautiful, blue, sparkling  dress.  He told me that was how He saw me.  He then told me “you say you love people, but do you really?” I replied. “Yes”. Then I heard God say to me , “no, you don’t”.  Ever since that moment I have been trying to show love to people! I suppose that was when the “Touch of Tammy”  was initially birthed!

What Is Love?

​It was about ten years ago now! It seems such a short time ago! I was jumping on a trampoline with my kids, and then I couldn’t figure a way to get off the trampoline when I was finished. My mind was thinking of ways to not hurt myself. Then our oldest son, Joshua, says “come on, Moma. You’re big!”  I remember his statement made me so mad I got right off that trampoline, stormed into the house, slammed my bedroom door, sat on the bed and cried! Then I heard God whisper to me, “should you be acting that way? Any woman dressed like this?” Then he showed me this image of my standing in a beautiful, blue, sparkling  dress.  He told me that was how He saw me.  He then told me “you say you love people, but do you really?” I replied. “Yes”. Then I heard God say to me , “no, you don’t”.  Ever since that moment I have been trying to show love to people! I suppose that was when the “Touch of Tammy”  was initially birthed!

What is love? According to the Oxford dictionary, love is both a verb and a noun. It’s a noun when you have an intense feeling for something like babies. The example Oxford gave was “the babies fill their parents with such love.” Or it’s a noun when you say that you have a great love for football.  Then it’s a verb when you say the word love or when you show your love.

Then the Bible defines love in  I Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

Ever since that trampoline incident I have tried to show love. But in order to show love you first have to know what real love is. Many people go around trying to seek out love through relationships. Many people do things to gain others approval or love.  However, the truth is we are already loved just as we are. God already loved us even when we didn’t know him. Once we come to know God then he starts to reveal who He really is. He is the God of love.

This God of love will first start to reveal what He says and thinks about you. You are made in His image, you are His beloved, He only thinks good things about you, He has made plans for you to prosper you, and so many more things! 

We must listen to what God says about us rather than what we think of ourselves.  What do others see when they look at you? Can they see the God in you? Are you sharing the love of God with others through your actions? 

Author, Gary Chapman, wrote that there are many ways to show love and he categorized them into 5 different languages. They are saying words of affirmation, giving gifts, spending quality time, doing acts of service, and giving physical touch! 

I challenge you today to increase your level of love not only to others but also to yourself!  Don’t get so caught up with life that you forget to love yourself! Are you saying words that affirm yourself? When is the last time you gave yourself a gift? When is the last time you spent quality time alone with yourself and God? Did you do anything to help yourself? Did you give yourself a hug? 

See what God was trying to reveal to me so long ago was I did say I loved people, but the person I didn’t really love was myself. Because my foundation of loving was not right then I did things out of trying to please others. If not to please people but to please God. I don’t have to do things to please others. I don’t have to earn God’s love. I already have God’s love. I just need to reflect His love to others! 

Since that time on the trampoline I have learned soo much. It took me going through a divorce, a bad relationship, a good relationship, a nasty fall, a new marriage,  a master’s degree program, co writing a book, having a seizure, getting my minister’s license,  starting a business, beginning to read self development books, talking with mentors, and lots and lots of prayer! 

Am I a finished product? No, it just took me that long to get the bad junk out of the way!  Now I am just getting started! Let me know if I can pray with you about anything or if there is anything that you need.

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